Never, ever, date your roommate
Courtesy of Kevin Dooley http://www.flickr.com/photos/pagedooley/
We’ve all probably heard a story or two about the case of the male-female roommates who started out friends and became a couple. We may have even heard a version of this story that had a happy ending. Which is too bad, because we are about to take that glass bubble and shatter it on the cold, hard sidewalk.
Here is a simple rule to live by: Never, ever, date your roommate. Don’t even think about it. Not even for a second.
Now before you get all whiny on us and ask WHHHHYYYYY?? in that very irritating third grader voice, we’ll tell you why. In fact, there are a bunch of really good reasons.
No. 1: You will probably break up. Let’s face it, relationships are hard. Some might argue that relationships are even harder when you are living together. For one thing, you never have any personal space or a chance to have a break from each other. There will be none of those first-date jitters or the chance to get home from a date and download all the gossip to your roommate – because your date is your roommate. (See, this is confusing if nothing else.)
And if things don’t work out for happily ever after, then what? Do you remain friends and roommates? More likely, someone is going to be upset and have their feelings hurt, and that means someone is going to have to move out.
No. 2: It will accelerate the pace of the relationship way too fast. If you’ve been on the dating scene for awhile, then you know that it takes some time to truly get to know someone. Depending on how often you seen them, you might not be able to form an assessment of a prospective partner’s personality for up to a year after you get together – and that’s OK. But if you’re living together, you’re going to be forced to make those decisions much faster, and it may lead to a higher margin of error.
No. 3: If you do break up, and you keep living together, future dating is going to be soooo awkward. It might even be impossibly awkward. So there you go: date your roommate, and you could end up never having another date again in your life. Which we doubt very much is something you want. So do not date your roommate. And if you are one of those freaky couples who lived together first and then fell in love, spill your guts in the comments section. We like gossip.